I have had a lot of unexpected anger lately. I've decided that I'm a Bridge Troll.
What I mean by is that I'm very good at building a case rather than building a bridge, and if there is already a bridge in place I often guard it with debate and argument.
I can justify this behavior by saying it's because I'm an analytical thinker or because I work in the legal profession and conditioned to respond that way. However, when all is said and done, this rationale is merely more case-building by me. But worse, the debates and stated positions and all the explaining of why things are justified, reasonable or perceived as they are...well, it leaves me emotionally exhausted and often quietly angry when others disagree.
So, again - because I've done this many times in the past - I am seeking ways to be more open to better communication, better listening especially. I want to improve my character and person to become someone who can not only build a bridge but also leave it open for travel.