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I was recently sent an email highlighting Billy Joel's song, We Didn't Start The Fire. This is a great song both musically and historically, demonstrating politics and the human condition. However, while there is some truth to his point that humans are a messy lot, there is a bit of denial of responsibility to the lyrics. Or perhaps it is just a twist on the fable of the Scorpion and the Frog - the claim being humans in their nature will create strife.
However, I think we often look at the action of first conflict without understanding why and where that conflict originates. Sometimes it doesn't matter. If a robber breaks in my home, threatening my family, there is no time to analyze his psychological profile. But when it comes to our own close and personal relationships, taking that time and avoiding hasty decisions is important. Yet we often fail to do that, and then cast our own reactions as a required response to an offense.
I believe much conflict in relationships, whether that be between friends, lovers, co-workers or children-and-parents, is due to failure to express what's going on. Sometimes we discover we are "taking a trip to Abilene," which is a metaphor for something no one wants but everyone agrees to do. Sometimes we have differing goals, but fail to compromise out of fear of rocking the boat. Sometimes it is more complex than either of these, but in all cases the fear and resentment builds. In the end frustration results and sometimes bridges get burned.
Speaking rudely and disrespectfully can burn bridges, but that is probably more about attitude. Having a relationship with someone whose attitude is constantly disrespectful might require that bridge be set afire anyway, as breaking associations isn't always a bad thing. However, for desirable and maintainable bonds, expressing what's inside is essential. It's not the fiery tongue that burns the bridge, but rather the failure to communicate. It is from this silence where assumptions spark and ignite the destruction.
Aug 5, 2011
The blog has been moved to Blogger due to technical and philosophical differences with my previous provider. Essentially, I lost 150 MB of data over an $8 payment which arrived 4 hours late. Yes, I did receive the 10-day notice, but unfortunately I was in Alaska at the time and didn't read it until the payment was 3½ hours past due. However, the real issue was they wanted $150 to restore the backup. Keep in mind that I have been a loyal, perfectly-paid client for the past 74 months.
But alas, a policy is a policy, and the free market remains consumer driven. Thus explains the change of venue of my blog. Clearly, I don't have all the previous posts pushed into the new site at the time of this posting; however, never fear - the archives will be restored soon. Sadly, the comments from the previous site will not be able to be recovered. I doubt anyone would have cared enough about his or her past opinions on my blog to contribute to the greed fund of the unnamed web-hosting service.
Anyway, welcome and look forward to the restoration, as well as my future blogging.