As a husband and a father who has raised four girls, the idea of sexual abuse is frightening to me. It is a reality, and one for which I've had to prepare to face directly for nearly thirty years. Thus, the recent Senate Hearings on Kavanaugh have brought those tensions to the forefront for me, as it likely has for many of us. However, I feel like far too many people are focusing on the wrong aspects of what has happened. In that perspective, I'd like to share what I hope my daughters (and all women) learn or remember from the ordeal.